Tatiana recommends delaying social media until after 8th grade graduation

Dear Tatiana,

How old do you think kids should be before getting their first smart phone? There seems to be so many dangers and I’m just not sure my middle schooler is equipped to handle the dangers, the distractions and the peer pressure. However, it seems that everyone in her middle school has a smart phone and has free reign to Snap Chat and post Instagram photos practically whenever and however they please.… Read More »

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tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers: How to react to friends with teen going through drug addiction.

Dear Tatiana,

I have an acquaintance with a college-aged child who is battling drug addiction. I don’t know them very well at all, but the family seems fairly open about the recovery and addiction. However, obviously it is a sensitive and serious issue. My question is hard to put into words, but basically I’m wondering if it is helpful or hurtful to reach out to the parents or not?… Read More »

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tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers: Should we take our young children to their older cousin’s funeral?

Dear Tatiana,

Our college age nephew recently took his own life. My much younger children loved spending time with him. He was academically and athletically gifted and a very pleasant person. I want to be honest with the kids, but this is so tragic should we take them to the funeral?

-Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous,

Take them.… Read More »

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tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers about Rude Grandpa

Hi Tatiana,

I’m struggling with a situation with my parents.  My dad is a really nice guy in most regards, but for some reason has always thought (at least as long as I can remember) it’s okay to be rude, sarcastic, etc. to my mom (and to me as a teen).  It created terrible friction in our house growing up. Read More »

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Tatiana Matthews LPC
tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers One Tired Mama

Hi Tatiana,

Where to start???  My son was probably 5 or so when he stopped sleeping in his own room, own bed. He was waking every night several times scared to go back to sleep. He had a bad dream about a monster or something. To get through and save our sanity we moved him into our other son’s room.Read More »

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Tatiana Matthews, LPC
tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers: Questions about ADHD and neuro-psycho-educational testing

Dear Tatiana,

It seems like every time I turn around another friend is telling me that their child has been diagnosed with ADHD or something that will give them extra time on standardized testing.   It seems to be so commonplace these days.  My child was always a good student but lately (middle school) seems to be less interested in school/homework/studying and has what may be “trouble focusing”.   Read More »

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Tatiana Matthews, LPC
tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers: How Long After Divorce or Death of a Spouse Should You Wait to Date?

Dear Tatiana,

How soon after a divorce or death of a spouse is it appropriate to start dating?   Is the answer different based on whether or not you have kids and how old they are?   I’m asking for a couple of friends with different situations.  It just seems like the older we get the more adult friends we have that are parenting alone and are lonely for adult companionship.  … Read More »

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Tatiana Matthews LPC
tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers a Worrying Mom with College Bound Daughter

Update:  In response to several  folks asking Tatiana for resources to educate their children before leaving for school, Tatiana has provided the following link:

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression-and-college-students/depression-college-students-pdf-new_151591.pdf

Dear Tatiana,

My daughter just graduated from high school and is heading off to college out of state next month.   We have several friends with kids who are one and two years older and have heard a few stories about older kids with friends or roommates who have had a ton of trouble adjusting  to college life for various reasons.  Read More »

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Tatiana Matthews, LPC
tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers: How to support a sober girlfriend?

Dear Tatiana, 

My good friend is a recovering alcoholic.  She’s been sober for a few years but rarely talks about it and I don’t think many people know her story.  We live in a community where many social situations revolve around alcohol (moms wine nights, happy hours at the pool, etc.).  I notice that she tends to decline social situations, particularly the ones that involve alcohol. Read More »

Tatiana Answers: How to tell child about grandparents divorce.

Dear Tatiana,

My parents are getting a divorce after 40 years. How do I tell my five year old?

Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous,

Use the least amount of words to express the facts in a simple and age appropriate way. Don’t provide too much information and respond to any questions in a similar fashion. Be prepared to provide emotional and physical comfort depending on the needs of the child.… Read More »

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Tatiana Matthews, LPC
tatiana@theahaconnection.com

Tatiana Answers: What to do about lying daughter?

Dear Tatiana,

My 10 year old daughter lies and takes my things without asking to send me on a “goose chase” when I need to use them. The other day she used my most expensive perfume that I could smell all the way downstairs. I approached her and asked if she used it and she denied it.Read More »