Tatiana Answers: Is it normal for a man not to kiss…ever?

Dear Tatiana, 

Is it normal for a man not to kiss? Why would someone not kiss ever (his wife)? 

Signed, 

Asking for a friend

Dear Asking for a friend, 

No, it’s not normal for a married man not to kiss his wife ever. There are multiple reasons why this may be occurring. Many men with un-diagnosed Autism Spectrum Disorders struggle with physical intimacy (there is a great book that talks about this called 22 Things a Woman Must Know if She Loves a Man with Asperger’s Syndrome written by Rudy Simone), as well as men who have been sexually abused, who are struggling with their sexuality or who may be unhappy in their marriage. Your friend may benefit from asking her husband to attend couples counseling to discuss this in a safe environment. 

Best,

Tatiana Matthews LPC

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